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Toxic frogs-Yum! Yum!

Today I ate 3 frogs. They weren’t just any old nasty frogs, they were 100% toxic. Poisonous and damaging, slimy and ugly; most definitely past their sell by date.  Strangely however,  having gorged myself on these disgusting morsels I feel so much better.  I am refreshed, revitalised and feeling very pleased with myself. More importantly I can now move on to other tasks which need my attention.

Before you all think that I have completely lost the plot  I had better explain myself.  Mark Twain said  “If the first thing you do each morning is to eat a live frog, you can go through the day with the satisfaction of knowing that that is probably the worst thing that is going to happen to you all day long”

Metaphorically speaking of course, the live frog is usually the very task that you are most likely to put off doing or in my case, have just been too busy to dedicate the necessary time and energy to. More likely than not, it is also the one task that can have the most positive impact on your life. In other words, I couldn’t procrastinate any longer I had to tackle those frogs which have been hanging around too long and move on.

I had 3 toxic frogs to munch on so I chose the ugliest one first and I have to say that the day did get better!

Brian Tracy has written a book on just this subject;


He is also credited with some great quotes such as;

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”

“Whatever you believe with feeling becomes your reality.”

“Always choose the future over the past. What do we do now?”



Sleep easy

One of the most common symptoms of depression is insomnia. I know how it feels to go night upon night with no more than an hour or two in a light, disturbed sleep. This does nothing to help recovery from depression, and when you are trying to work, look after yourself and your family, there is nothing worse than starting off the day on the back foot. My husband, who also has depression,  is also going through a torrid time with his sleep patterns at the moment, only snoozing for minutes at a time resulting in fatigue, and despondency. Although we both suffer with insomnia, the symptoms are very different. I am able to fall asleep as soon as my head touches the pillow, but wake after only 4 hours of shut-eye. My husband however, just can’t drop off at all. Fortunately, unlike me, he doesn’t seem to get irritable and stressed about the lack of sleep but takes it in his stride and vows to try again tomorrow night. There are many things you can do to improve your quality of sleep. Here are a few ideas which you can start with, before consulting your GP for further assistance;

  • establish fixed times for going to bed and waking up (and avoid sleeping in after a poor night’s sleep),
  • try to relax before going to bed,
  • maintain a comfortable sleeping environment (not too hot, cold, noisy or bright),
  • avoid napping during the day,
  • avoid caffeine, nicotine and alcohol within six hours of going to bed,
  • avoid exercise within four hours of bedtime (although exercise earlier in the day is beneficial),
  • avoid eating a heavy meal late at night,
  • avoid watching or checking the clock throughout the night, and
  • only use the bedroom for sleep and sex.

If you have tried self-help and you are still experiencing problems sleeping, consult your GP who may recommend the following treatments (details courtesy of NHS Choices);

  • Stimulus-control therapy, which aims to help you associate the bedroom with sleep and establish a consistent sleep/wake pattern.
  • Sleep restriction therapy, where you limit the amount of time spent in bed to the actual amount of time spent asleep, creating mild sleep deprivation. Sleep time is then increased as your sleeping improves.
  • Relaxation training, which aims to reduce tension or minimise intrusive thoughts that may interfere with sleep.
  • Paradoxical intention, which means you try to stay awake and avoid any intention to fall asleep. It is only used if you have trouble getting to sleep, but not maintaining sleep.
  • Biofeedback, where sensors connected to a machine are placed on your body to measure body responses like muscle tension or heart rate. The machine then produces pictures or sounds to help you control your breathing and body responses.
  • Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), which aims to examine and change your beliefs and attitudes about insomnia (see What does CBT for insomnia)
  • There is nothing worse than sleep deprivation and it is more common that you think. If you need help with your sleep, seek advice.

    Useful information;

    10 ways to get a good nights sleep