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The Wedding

After almost two years of planning Bridezilla and her faithful and patient paramour finally got hitched.

In other words, my lovely niece Pippa and her gorgeous groom Dan pledged their future together in a moving church ceremony which was followed by a reception at the local golf club.

Beautiful dress

Beautiful dress

A beautiful Spring Saturday dawned in rural Hampshire and a few close family and friends helped to put the last minute touches to the reception venue before returning to our hotel to spruce ourselves up for the 1.30pm wedding ceremony. Pippa was a little late, as is the bride’s perogative, but looked absolutely stunning in the perfect wedding dress which she had spotted in a bridal magazine and hunted down with relentless determination. Bridezilla doesn’t really describe this process adequately but let’s just say that when Pippa makes her mind up I wouldn’t want to be standing in the way of her target!

The service was lovely and any residual  formality and tension was broken by Dan the Groom when he was a bit too eager with his promise of undying love and protection and chipped in with his answer to the declaration too soon! Even the Vicar was laughing as were Pippa and Dan who managed to headbutt each other in the process. More laughter ensued and the congreation was given a few moments to calm down and regroup before the ceremony continued.



I was honoured to read a passage from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin during the proceedings. I had introduced Pippa to the book when it was first published, and the words are particularly poignant.

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your root was so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.”

After the ceremony, the traditional photographs were taken before we all travelled across to the Reception where we were met by a four-piece jazz band, “Acoustic Jass.”  They were brilliant and were just what was needed to bridge the gap before Pippa and Dan arrived.

We then had our meal, listened to the speeches, witnessed the cutting of the amazing birdcage cake, the first dance before the party really started. There was also a Props Booth for people to dress up and act silly which was the source of much hilarity and great photos!

I left quite early in the evening as I was extremely tired and had a long drive to make on the Sunday but I left knowing that Pippa and Dan are meant for each other and a brilliant day was shared by all.

Congratulations Pippa and Dan!

Pippa and Dan

Pippa and Dan



The Everlasting Wedding-Day 2

Well, the day finally arrived and our first task in the early afternoon was to get ready and drive to the couple’s new house where official photos were taken with family. The groom looked very smart, polished and not at all nervous whilst the bride looked truly gorgeous in a traditional long off-white dress and carrying a bouquet of apricot roses.

Photo shoot over, we drove to the reception hall where men and women were immediately separated by a screen in the middle of the room as is the custom. Three hundred people were expected and the hall soon filled up with expectant guests.

The bride and groom arrived a while later, clapped into the room in welcome by a group of close friends and family and slowly made their way to the “love seat” at the top of the hall stopping to speak to all the guests on the way.. Then the first party began.

Plenty of dancing, merriment and eating delicious food followed until we left thehall at 10pm to drive to the private family gathering and more partying.

Then the fun really started.

In Iran it is customary to decorate the bride and groom’s car with bouquets of flowers front and back and to follow them in convoy with everyone’s hazard lights flashing and horns blaring all the time. Firecrackers and sparklers are let off out of the car windows and there is plenty of shouting and whistling. Alarmingly, in the middle of the dual carriageway all the cars stopped in the road and the men got out and started to dance to music playing on the radio. Not bothered about holding up the traffic this continued for a few minutes until they returned to their cars and continued the drive to party number 2.

More dancing and yet more food until the early hours when time was called.

Thank goodness; I can’t keep up-they party like maniacs.

The Wedding Day-the art of marriage

Art of Marriage
by Wilfred A. Peterson

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding, and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner.