Cherish your friends (Patrick Lindsay)
You can count your true friends on one hand.
They provide some of our best memories.
The real joy of friendship is when you give.
To make a friend, give someone your friendship.
They will reciprocate.
Treasure your friends.
This is Florence, my jam jar.
She is full of inspiration and
on rainy days when things are looking bleak
or I feel a bit down, or I need motivation
or just when I feel like it
I delve in and pick out one of the tickets
Upon which are written things like;
We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.
Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Others stay awhile, make footprints on our hearts and we are never, ever the same.
Hope is the most exciting thing in life and if you honestly believe that love is out there, it will come. And even if it doesn’t come straight away there is still that chance all through your life that it will.
Two lives, two hearts joined together in friendship united forever in love.
Hope is the dream of a soul awake.
Never shall I forget the times I spent with you; continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours.
Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark.
Do not use a hatchet to remove a fly from your friend’s forehead.
Hope is the feeling that the feeling you have isn’t permanent.
To the query, ”What is a friend?” his reply was ”A single soul dwelling in two bodies.”
Hope is knowing that people, like kites, are made to be lifted up
Friends will keep you sane, Love could fill your heart, A lover can warm your bed, But lonely is the soul without a mate.
So on rainy days when things are looking bleak
or you feel a bit down, or you need motivation
or just when you feel like it
delve in and pick out one of the tickets
One of my dearest, closest friends is currently going through a tough time and I sense the sheer exhaustion and encroaching numbness which often follows such a period of prolonged anxiety. I feel hopeless, useless and helpless because I am unable to take all that pain away. But I can’t. I know that. But it is heart-breaking to watch someone you love hurting so much.
I hope and I pray that their life improves soon to an extent where some peace of mind can be achieved. Turmoil and inner conflict are difficult to cope with and keeping the faith is crucial. There is hope. Things will get better. I am here for them when I am needed. If I can help in any way I will. All they need do is ask.
I don’t ask my God for much. Truly. There’s not a day goes by when I don’t thank him for what I have, for the fact that I am still here and have a fighting chance for happiness, for my wonderful son without whom I would be incomplete and just to be able to wake up to another day is a privilege.
But I’m asking now.
I’m asking for some respite. A chance for my friend to recover their balance and gain enough strength to be able to deal with life as it unfolds. I’m asking for some breathing space and support from those closer. Understanding and acceptance doesn’t cost anything. A little effort and love works wonders.
I’m praying for a ray of sunshine to peek through and show that there are those out here who care. Nothing outrageous. Nothing unrealistic. Just time. Hope and belief.
I love you
I love you
not only for what you are
but for what I am when I’m with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself
but what you are making of me.
You have done it
by being yourself
Take care XX
True friends are a gift
Linked, cosy warm glow
glinting treasure, pearls galore
A friendship fortune
Honesty, truth reigns
“Does my bum look big in this?”
Nurture your friendships
Small things make a difference, thought
care, comfort, support
Laugh with, joke about
Cry with, never shop without
Movies, winebar, home
Awesome, gorgeous, great
Foxy, sexy, gifted, mates
Everyone should have a best friend. Someone who knows all about you and likes you anyway. Best friends are loyal and care for each other. They listen but do not judge, they spend time together totally comfortable in mutual respect. They challenge each other but never expect too much in return and most importantly they accept you for who you are. All this takes time and effort but your best friend will be one of the most treasured people in your life. Best friends can be hard to come by so, once found, look after them.
All this sounds reasonable when life is good.
Depression however can not only rob you of your friends, but it can also turn you into your own worst enemy. You have to start learning to be your own best friend and this can be difficult. So how do you become your own best buddy and learn to love and accept yourself again?
I am somewhat of a perfectionist so when I fail to live up to my expectations I can be harshly self-critical and fall victim to low mood as a result. Do I speak to my friends in the same way that I speak to myself? No I wouldn’t dare so my first suggestion is to stop telling yourself off and be more understanding. Don’t set the bar too high and don’t judge yourself on your “failures”. You can only do your best on any given day and that should be enough.
Secondly, start to accept yourself for who you are, what you look like and what you believe in. You cannot please everyone all the time and you shouldn’t try to do so by pretending to be someone you are not. Pretence can be exhausting and no one likes to live a lie. You are you and you should be proud of your uniqueness and individuality-revel in it.
Finally, spend some time with yourself. Find out who you are and what you enjoy and be comfortable in your own company.
You might find that you like yourself after all.